Something Happened

Something happened to me over the last month. I lay on the beach for 8 days in a row in Punta Cana while attending my daughter’s wedding. That week gave me a lot of time to ponder all the changes that have been taking place in my life the past year. One of those changes in particular turns out to have altered and improved my life.

“What is it?” you ask.
I’ve learned to live in the moment.

It took me a lifetime plus those 8 days, but I finally learned how to let go of the past and resist focusing on “what’s next.” Along with that I’ve also learned how important it is to live a life true to myself, and not for what I hope others might think of me.

I could count on one hand the number of vacations I’ve taken in my adult life. I’m not proud of that fact. And, while I was lying on the beach, I recalled the story of the man who as he lay dying, told his family and friends that he wished he had spent less time at the office and more time with them.

Please don’t misunderstand me. I’ve had a wonderful life in so many ways. By many people’s standards it would be considered one of high accomplishment and rich in experiences. But, I’ll let you in on my dirty secret. I was never able to just enjoy those things without wondering if I could have done it better, or some other way, or what other people thought of how I did it. I was always looking ahead to the next thing that might finally provide the happiness I just hadn’t yet grasped.

I learned something else this past year. Happiness is a choice and not a destination. You choose to be happy, or you choose to be unhappy. Rich or poor, beautiful or plain, healthy or sick – happiness is our choice. It really is that simple no matter your life circumstances.

What does all this have to do with the Sales Doughnuts and you? For starters if anything I just said resonates with you personally, you might want to think about your own thinking.

Me? I’ve decided to spend less time in the office and more time with the people I care about. I got out my fishing poles that I haven’t used in over 30 years, joined a fish, game, and forestry association, and started teaching my wife how to shoot a target pistol. (She loved it, by the way.)

I’ve started snipping away many of the social media ties I’ve created over the last half-dozen years. Facebook is close to being snipped, by the way. They have managed to take an excellent service and turn it into a pile of rotting fish, in my opinion; with the changes they are making every day. People say Facebook lets you stay in touch with friends. I disagree. I see most people using it as a way to turn the annual “It’s All About Us” dreaded holiday letter into a daily occurrence.

You stay in touch with friends by giving them the time and effort keeping a friend deserves. I didn’t do a very good job of that in the past. But, that’s in the past and I’m making up for lost time. Facebook isn’t the answer. Face-to-face visits, phone calls, and being there for them keeps friends close.

That brings me to the Sales Doughnuts. I hope they’ve been of value to you. I’ve written 199 of them and this will make number 200. I was thinking it might be a good number to stop with but I still have the fire to help change the way people sell. So, I’ll be handing out more doughnuts. It just might not be every day.

Time to go now. It’s almost noon here and there are books to read, fish to catch, and dreams to dream.

In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.~Leo Tolstoy  

4 thoughts on “Something Happened”

  1. Bob, I’m happy for you! You should know, I learn something from you each and every day, but if you cut it down to a Weekly Doughnut that could be healthy for all ;-))

    1. Thank you, Tim. The responses I’ve gotten over the last 24 hours have been very heartwarming. Many emails from people who read but have never written me before.

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